I have written about it many times before and I’ll do it again because I believe it. I also hope to inspire others, especially if I have any young readers, to be confident in YOU. Style and fashion can be tricky things. When we are shown so many different things daily about what is cute, what is stylish, how to wear this and why you should wear that, it’s hard to navigate what works for you. It’s hard not to let the world influence you.
And quite honestly, it shouldn’t influence us. Because when we see people on TV looking flawless what we don’t see is that they’ve had a TEAM of people getting them there and a TEAM of people following them around making sure they stay looking flawless.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t have a team of people. I have a husband and two sons who think I look the same whether I spent an hour on my makeup or 15 minutes. I want to make sure that I feel good about me. I can’t live to impress others because their opinions waver too much. Confidence comes from within and while I will admit it takes work, it’s totally worth it!
Here are my tips on how to be confident.
I can’t stress this enough. I mean, you know when you see celebrities maybe they look fabulous but I would bet that they aren’t feeling fabulous. They probably can’t breathe, their feet are killing them, and they can’t move their heads because it might mess up their hair. Believe it or not, there are ways to feel good, look good, and — wait for it — be comfortable!!
Recently I was sent this Hanes Get Cozy ComfortFlex Fit® Wire-Free Bra. Usually these types of things aren’t my style because let’s face it – the ladies aren’t as perky after two kids. But since slipping this beauty on during our Yosemite camping trip, I’ve been hooked! It’s comfortable, the smart sizing fabric makes it the perfect fit and has a super soft, stretchy feel. I can wear it all day without dying to rip off my bra at the end of the day. I wore it quite a bit under a shirt that is loose and flowy so that the bra is peeking through and it’s perfect. Much better than wearing that shirt over a bra that I have to constantly check is okay and the girls aren’t peeking out! Not to mention it’s only $9.99 – so much better than those fancy, expensive bras!
Don’t worry about who you see wearing what. People have different body types, different style preferences, different figures. What works for one person might not work for you. I am 6 feet tall so I can’t wear a lot of these little shift dresses that some girls can because they become either mini dresses or t-shirts! I have to wear what I want to wear that I feel comfortable in. Then my comfort will shine through as confidence!
Don’t worry about Trends
Trends come and go and it’s hard and expensive to keep up with them. For example, I remember in high school when chokers were popular – they’re back again!! If you were to purchase clothing on what trend is currently in style, that’d be an expensive habit. Instead reach for the classic pieces that you are confident will last and weave in some trendy pieces as you go. Perfect blend!
Embrace your beauty/size
If the Kardashians have offered one thing to society it would be that you don’t have to be stick skinny to be beautiful. Not sure they’ve offered much else, but hey, I’ll take it! I don’t look like what the world would tell you is beautiful. In fact, I’d wager a guess that you don’t either. And guess what? That’s okay! You shouldn’t look like that! You should look like you. So get comfortable with the body that was given to you and embrace its beauty. If you aren’t happy with certain aspects that can change (i.e. getting more fit) then work to change it! Otherwise, embrace those big hips & curves!
Once you’ve chosen clothing that is comfortable, learned to be yourself, found your style, let go of trends and embraced your beauty, now it’s time to own it. OWN IT, LADIES. Walk around like you are beautiful — because you are. Walk around like you own that dress and comfortable bra — because you do. OWN YOUR BEAUTY and people will see that in you too. Your daughters, friends, sisters will see it and learn the power of confidence too.
Just to be clear, this isn’t a comparison game. This isn’t “I look prettier than her” game because no one wins that one. This is a “I look beautiful and feel great” game and there is nothing wrong with that. Comparison is the thief of joy, so let’s drop that right away. We don’t need to be prettier than someone else to feel worth. We just need to find our own worth and own it.
And to think – this all started with a comfortable bra. 😉
I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.