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It’s been a while

I have been missing for a while now. I mean, I’m around. I’m on Instagram and Facebook. I took a trip to Europe and it was nothing short of epic. But I wasn’t here blogging. It’s just that I’m kinda over it.

At the core of what I have been doing at a blogger, I still love it. I love sharing products with you guys and inspiring you to feel beautiful. To know your worth. I hope some of my posts have helped some people because this world is tough. But the blogging world has changed. And it just doesn’t suit me as much anymore.

See since the birth of Pinterest and Instagram we have created a level of perfection that is just expected. Perfect birthday parties whether the kid wants it or not. Perfect makeup that never creases or cakes. Perfect boho-chic hair that stays all day and always looks like the perfect blend of messy, I-meant-to-do-this style. Outfits that are always on point, with perfect lighting, and blurred background. And those inspirational looks are beautiful. I even pin hairstyles, outfits and makeup looks like those.

But those aren’t real life. We don’t always have good lighting. Sometimes hairstyles fall or look messy. Sometimes you have to rub out your makeup because it cakes a little in your wrinkles (just me?). And sometimes you wear sweats to take your kids to school because putting on real clothes was just.too.much.

I don’t hire professional photographers to take outfits pictures. I bribe my husband or kids to snap one for me and I’m lucky if it’s straight and in focus. Anything else is pushing it. I like to look and feel cute but my outfits are rarely perfectly on point. I always forget earrings or there’s a stain on the front or I’m sweating more than those perfect Pinterest pictures show.

real life

#Brothers Lil man got pinched. It was dramatic. 😐

I like doing my makeup. I like wearing makeup. I like being creative with it too. But it’s not perfect. There’s no resemblance to any Kardashian. It’s just fun to look a little better than normal sometimes. And for me, it’s a way to be artistic and try new things.

But I love you guys. I love my readers that comment here or comment on my Facebook or Instagram posts. I love developing relationships with people, encouraging each other and sharing each other’s stories. That’s what I love about blogging. It seems like it’s all slipped away. Like it’s one big popularity contest that I really don’t care to win.

And I love when readers say things like “but you’re real! I would rather read someone who is being real than a perfectly posed picture!” And I agree. That’s what I would rather read too. Except that we live in a very visually perfect world. And if you see a ‘real’ picture next to a perfect picture, which would you pin? IΒ think if we’re all being honest, we know which one we’d choose.

I’m still going to be here. But I guess I’m writing this as a type of warning of sorts? I am going to be real. I will post pictures that are really me. That aren’t professionally taken. That represent what it’s like to be {hot mess of a} mom. Because that’s exactly what I am. I don’t have my act together, I mess up a lot, and I really never look perfect.

But I love you guys, so let’s keep this party going!

21 Responses to It’s been a while

  1. Becky - bybmg May 9, 2016 at 12:40 pm #

    Yes please. Keep it real. We need that.

  2. grammy goodwill May 9, 2016 at 7:55 pm #

    Oh, my goodness. Look how big your boys are! You do what you want with your blog. I’ll still read it.

  3. Carrie May 10, 2016 at 5:27 am #

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Life can get way too busy sometimes and it’s hard to decide what can stay and what can go.
    I’ve been reading and enjoying your blog for quite some time now, and really appreciate the hair tutorials. It’s nice to have ideas to change things up from my regular ponytail express!
    I hope you’re feeling re-inspired.

    • Natalia May 23, 2016 at 9:34 am #

      Thank you! It’s inspiring reading through people’s comments to be honest! I am going to continue, and it’s readers like you that make it worth it!

  4. Heather May 10, 2016 at 6:12 am #

    I’m happy that you will still be blogging. I love your blog because it is real. I don’t want to look like a Kardashian. I have stopped following other blogs because I don’t feel good when I look at this 20 something’s “perfect” life. I relate to you, think you are funny and honest. I am so over the perfect make up and perfect hair and the perfect picture. I tried doing some of those hair styles and make up and it NEVER looks the same. But I’ve also tried yours and it comes out pretty close and I’m OK with that. So thank you!

    • Natalia May 23, 2016 at 9:33 am #

      Thank you so much!! It’s such an encouragement to read that. Thank you for taking the time to post that, I appreciate it! πŸ™‚

  5. Jennifer Barcroft May 10, 2016 at 2:26 pm #

    I love this post. I have always enjoyed your blog and I’m glad that you are going to keep it real.

    • Natalia May 23, 2016 at 9:33 am #

      Thank you so much! πŸ™‚

  6. grammy goodwill May 10, 2016 at 7:21 pm #

    I left a comment yesterday but it hasn’t shown up. First, I’m amazed at how big your boys have gotten. Second, I know what you mean about how blogs have changed. I don’t even read as many as I did, because they all seem so alike. But, I’ll always read what you post, even if I don’t comment.
    Good luck with whatever you decide.

    • Natalia May 23, 2016 at 9:32 am #

      Thank you so much! I am so happy to have you around, it feels like I know you! I mean, it’s been 5 years! You have seen my boys grow up in a sense! Thanks for always being here! πŸ™‚

  7. Erin May 10, 2016 at 8:20 pm #

    I’m glad you’re sticking around! And I love that you are accessible. πŸ™‚

  8. Lynne M May 20, 2016 at 5:06 am #

    Hi Natalia,
    I hope you’ll finish the Love Story soon as well as keep blogging.

    • Natalia May 23, 2016 at 9:24 am #

      Gonna work on it right now!

  9. Joanna May 24, 2016 at 4:23 am #

    Yes! Please keep going!Please keep it real! Please keep being a hot mess and a perfectly imperfect mother. That’s one of the reasons I keep coming back! But I do agree with you. Blogging is not what it was…

    • Natalia June 24, 2016 at 3:50 pm #

      Thank you so much for commenting! It’s always encouraging to read about what you guys are thinking! I appreciate the encouragement!

  10. Brittany July 17, 2016 at 6:51 pm #

    I think it’s really freakin great that you’re writing this blog, posting your pictures, and sharing yourself and your family with the world. It’s also super great to see an “Interracial” couple/family for Once! My fiance and I have been together for ten years (I’m 30, but never in a hurry), he’s Pakistani and “Brown” while I’m from FL, blonde, blue eyed and quite literally as white as possible. In addition to the “being different” bit, theres also the whole bit where every one is super terrified of anything Muslim these days- even a lifelong English speaking, super duper moderate, and kinda not so secretly barely practicing one is cause for concern in the South, so meeting new people was extra weird til we moved to San Francisco and still can be quite awkward at times: Anyway! It’s soo nice to see a beautiful couple/family that isnt all blonde and blue and photoshopped and I hope you dont completely get over blogging because I only just found you and I honestly think I’d be a bit disenchanted if you called it now! I don’t often even comment on people’s blogs but then again- maybe I dont think they deserve anybody’s comments… they’re unoriginal and have loads of flunkies by default somehow. You’re a welcome change and I hope I’m not too late in finding you!

    • Natalia July 19, 2016 at 11:02 am #

      Oh you are too too sweet, thank you!! It is always nice to hear that people enjoy reading. I am not totally over doing it, I like being here and I like connecting with real people like you. That’s what makes it worth it for me. I just need to find a way to write about my family in a real way that isn’t boring to everyone if that makes sense. Thanks again for your comment, it was very encouraging today!

  11. Sarah September 9, 2016 at 10:42 pm #

    Thank you so much for sharing this, Natalia! It’s so raw and real.

    It’s really hard to compete with all these ‘IG-worthy’ perfect pictures of anything from outfits to yoga poses! It is indeed a crazy world out there.

    But I hope you keep on inspiring us with your real stories and “real” pictures.

    • Natalia September 23, 2016 at 5:55 pm #

      Awe, thank you! It’s readers like you that keep me going! πŸ™‚

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