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How to Be Confident when you don’t Feel Confident

I write a lot about confidence around here. I do that because no matter how many makeup products or hairstyles a girl can have, confidence is the most attractive attribute. I talked about it a little bit here.

How to BE confident when you don’t feel confident

be confident But the thing is, we don’t always feel confident. Things like zits or cold sores or scars can make us feel self-conscious about the way we look. That’s why today I’m excited to share with you some tips to help stay confident even when you don’t feel confident. Battling a cold sore can be such a bummer. Some of my closest friends are cold sore sufferers and I know the toll they take on confidence. That’s why they turn to Abreva® at the very first sign of their cold sore to heal it fast! Read below to discover simple ways you can keep your confidence high.

Confidence comes from within

This might sound all fluffy, but confidence comes from within. It comes from believing in who you are as a person. It isn’t dictated by what you look like. Confidence is knowing yourself, believing in the good and working your best to make improvements on the not-so-good. Also, confidence is not competitive. Confidence is knowing your worth, not thinking you’re better. You can know you’re pretty, but there is no need to compare to see if you’re prettier than the next girl. Because — news flash — you’re not the prettiest girl in the world. And that’s okay.

There’s beauty in imperfection

What if the world was perfect? What if no one had a flaw? What if we all walked around perfectly all the time? Now, that sounds fun in theory, but that wouldn’t be very interesting at all! Instead embrace the imperfections and have confidence in yourself at your core. Now that’s beautiful! It’s what makes the world go ’round. And that’s how we have relationships and make each other better. My husband is so opposite of me, but we refine each other and as time goes on, we make each other better. If we were perfect, there’d be none of that!

Take care of it

Some things we can’t change, but for those things that we can – do it! If you have a zit, slap some concealer on that bad boy and go about your day. Bad hair day? The messy top knot makes it look like you meant it to be that way. Cold sore? Treat it with Abreva® Cream at the first sign. With the help of Abreva®, we can handle cold sores quickly and not let them get the best of us! 

You could knock out your cold sore in 2.5 days*. Only Abreva® can do it, when you treat at the first sign**. Try  Abreva® Cream during your next cold sore! Click here to learn more about  Abreva® cream

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114 Responses to How to Be Confident when you don’t Feel Confident

  1. Chantel February 8, 2016 at 10:28 am #

    Great post.

  2. Happiest Camper February 8, 2016 at 11:14 am #

    Taking time to exercise make me feel more confident, even if it’s only a walk around the block.

  3. Will G February 8, 2016 at 2:29 pm #

    I think about all of the positive things in my life!

  4. heather February 8, 2016 at 6:35 pm #

    Abreva cream is a confidence booster for me if I feel like a cold sore is coming on.

  5. latanya February 9, 2016 at 12:11 pm #

    wear makeup or exercise

  6. Madeline February 9, 2016 at 5:40 pm #

    When I’m not feeling confident I either exercise or spend extra time on my hair that day. Both are great confidence boosters!

  7. Madeline February 10, 2016 at 3:34 am #

    Tweet link: https://twitter.com/shala_darkstone/status/697383059528650752

  8. Rachel February 10, 2016 at 6:15 pm #

    I like to wear high heels and curl my hair to help me feel confident.

  9. Amy Tong February 11, 2016 at 5:08 pm #

    I usually would put a smile on my face, wear my favorite jeans and heels to boost confidence. 🙂

    amy [at] utry [dot] it

  10. Amy Tong February 11, 2016 at 5:09 pm #

    tweeted:
    https://twitter.com/uTry_it/status/697950611975725058

    amy [at] utry [dot] it

  11. Kimmy Ripley February 12, 2016 at 7:02 am #

    When I’m not feeling confident I try to make myself feel better with some nicely done makeup.

  12. Lisa Brown February 13, 2016 at 5:23 am #

    I will wear may makeup and do my hair, even if not up to it. It makes me feel better to do it and keeps me up beat and positive.

  13. Lisa Brown February 13, 2016 at 5:23 am #

    my tweet-https://twitter.com/LuLu_Brown24/status/698497757686829057

  14. Julie Wood February 13, 2016 at 5:51 am #

    When I do not feel confident, I try and think positive, smile, do deep breathing exercises and go outside and go for a walk. It usually helps me feel so much better!

  15. Julie Wood February 13, 2016 at 5:52 am #

    tweet-https://twitter.com/JewelWood/status/698504883872202753

  16. maria cantu February 13, 2016 at 7:24 am #

    By exercising a few times a week.

  17. Elena February 13, 2016 at 8:13 am #

    I use more foundation when I want to feel confident

  18. Mami2jcn February 13, 2016 at 9:26 am #

    I stay confident by exercising 3 times a week.

  19. Mami2jcn February 13, 2016 at 9:27 am #

    tweet–https://twitter.com/mami2jcn/status/698559185542389761

  20. Erika February 13, 2016 at 10:50 am #

    I often can perk myself up when I have a little something fun on, like red lipstick.

    chambanachik(at)gmail(dot)com

  21. Jessica To February 13, 2016 at 12:46 pm #

    I try to stay confident by getting enough rest.

  22. CR Williams February 13, 2016 at 12:53 pm #

    I usually get my hair done!!

  23. CR Williams February 13, 2016 at 12:54 pm #

    https://twitter.com/mommysweetiepie/status/698611025902329856

  24. Natalie February 13, 2016 at 4:03 pm #

    https://twitter.com/yarbr012/status/698658837675442176

  25. Natalie February 13, 2016 at 4:06 pm #

    I SMILE in order to increase my self confidence when I don’t feel confident. It lightens my mood and I feel like I can handle any situation.

  26. Kelly D February 13, 2016 at 5:22 pm #

    I wear a new outfit to feel confident.

  27. Kelly D February 13, 2016 at 5:23 pm #

    tweet
    https://twitter.com/Kellydpa/status/698678740990099456

  28. Jessie C. February 13, 2016 at 7:15 pm #

    I take care of my body to gain confidence, exercise always boosts my confidence.
    tcarolinep at gmail dot com

  29. Jessie C. February 13, 2016 at 7:15 pm #

    tweet-https://twitter.com/tcarolinep/status/698706357822750720

  30. Claudia Davis February 14, 2016 at 4:37 pm #

    I force myself to exercise!

  31. claudia davis February 14, 2016 at 4:39 pm #

    https://twitter.com/davisesq212/status/699029939975254017

  32. Anne February 15, 2016 at 7:25 am #

    Confession: It’s been years since I’ve felt confident about nearly anything. But when I need a boost, I find it helps when I know my clothes fit well and look good together, and I tell myself that I really am okay.

  33. Anne February 15, 2016 at 7:32 am #

    I shared your thoughtful blog post and the Abreva giveaway on Twitter:
    https://twitter.com/NotherAnneOther/status/699252076971487234
    Thanks!

  34. Lacey February 16, 2016 at 9:01 pm #

    Since becoming a mom I have struggled with confidence because I don’t often have the time to turn my “hot mess” self into my composed self. Not too long ago I heard the term “Fake it till you make it”..Although I value being genuine above being composed, I think sometimes pushing forward even when the “hot mess” is a little too evident, and saying I will go to the grocery store with a baseball cap on and rock it like no one else’s business can create confidence you didn’t know existed.

  35. rachel February 17, 2016 at 6:29 am #

    I like to go out for a run — get active and healthy to boost myself!

  36. kathy February 17, 2016 at 8:07 am #

    I put on my favorite clothes and give myself a pep talk

  37. Katherine February 17, 2016 at 8:10 am #

    https://twitter.com/mkjmc/status/699979334094864384

  38. Teresa February 18, 2016 at 3:31 pm #

    When I don’t feel confident, I try to stop concentrating on myself and start thinking about other people. If I find something I can do for someone else, it usually makes me feel a lot better!

  39. Vincent February 18, 2016 at 6:17 pm #

    I get a haircut, dress in something that makes me feel good and imagine everything going well.

  40. Vincent February 18, 2016 at 6:17 pm #

    Tweeted
    https://twitter.com/rubylorikeet/status/700504102250283009

  41. BusyWorkingMama February 18, 2016 at 6:25 pm #

    When I need to feel confident, I dress nicely and make sure I am look “well groomed.” Even light makeup helps me achieve some confidence.

  42. Anastasia Falling February 26, 2016 at 7:32 pm #

    When I’m not feeling confident… I fake it! 🙂 I just go on like I do when I feel great! It usually helps restore my confidence throughout the day, until I forget that I wasn’t feeling awesome at the beginning 🙂

  43. Anastasia Falling February 26, 2016 at 7:33 pm #

    Tweeted 🙂 – https://twitter.com/Enter_Now/status/703422215799222277

  44. Cynthia C February 27, 2016 at 12:42 pm #

    I make sure that I look my best. That usually gives me the confidence I need.

  45. Cynthia C February 27, 2016 at 12:43 pm #

    Tweet
    https://twitter.com/clc408/status/703681870148534272

  46. Kerry February 28, 2016 at 8:59 am #

    I put on a cute outfit and tell myself to get over it!

  47. Kerry February 28, 2016 at 9:11 am #

    tweeted: https://twitter.com/KerryBishop/status/703990657795411968

  48. Deb Ford February 28, 2016 at 11:59 am #

    I do the only thing I can do….I fake it!!!

  49. Deb Ford February 28, 2016 at 12:00 pm #

    tweeted
    https://twitter.com/fairydancer35/status/704033283244466177

  50. Margaret Smith February 29, 2016 at 9:42 am #

    Looking my best always makes me feel more confident. Have a nice outfit and having my hair and makeup just right, seems to help me. Thanks so much.

  51. Margaret Smith February 29, 2016 at 9:43 am #

    Tweeted: https://twitter.com/peg42/status/704361271207043072
    Thanks again

  52. Birdiebee March 1, 2016 at 4:21 pm #

    When I don’t particularly feel confident, I go to the salon and have my hair either highlighted, cut or braided to give me back some of the confidence I lost along the way.

  53. Birdiebee March 1, 2016 at 4:23 pm #

    Tweeted-https://twitter.com/birdiebee52/status/704824136338505728

  54. debbie March 2, 2016 at 5:12 am #

    I wear something that makes me feel good about myself and that is comfortable! If I’m pulling a too short shirt down or pulling up a slipping bra strap, I never feel as confident.

  55. Tara O. March 2, 2016 at 7:26 am #

    One way to boost my confidence is to have my hair and makeup done! When you look good, you feel good!

  56. Elle March 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm #

    I surround myself with friends and family who love and support me. It’s a great confidence booster.

  57. OFG March 3, 2016 at 12:29 pm #

    I try to remember that we all make mistakes. That living our best life includes not always getting it right.

  58. Robin March 3, 2016 at 2:04 pm #

    Stay positive!

  59. Barbara M March 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm #

    When I am not feeling so together I take a bit more time with my make up.
    That perks me up some.
    thank you

  60. Barbara M March 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm #

    Tweet https://twitter.com/JalapenoMama/status/705558975664619520

  61. Susan Smith March 4, 2016 at 9:21 am #

    One way to boost my confidence is to have my hair and makeup done and to wear nice clothes. When I look nice I feel better.

  62. Susan Smith March 4, 2016 at 9:23 am #

    https://twitter.com/susan1215/status/705805461224689664

  63. Jeffrey March 5, 2016 at 8:48 am #

    Your ideas for feeling confident are great and I have a couple to add. When your spouse is down is the time they need you the most so step up! Another is age, as I get older things like cold sores, scars and imperfections affect me less. We begin to realize what’s really important the older we get!

  64. Jeffrey March 5, 2016 at 9:01 am #

    I posted on Twitter: https://twitter.com/FireRunner2379/status/706162714733879297.

  65. Gina M March 6, 2016 at 1:47 pm #

    When I do things to take care of myself, like exercising, eating right, doing my hair and makeup, etc – these types of things always give me a confidence boost.

    Thanks for the chance to win!
    wildorchid985 at gmail dot com

  66. Gina M March 6, 2016 at 1:49 pm #

    tweet–https://twitter.com/WildOrchid985/status/706597665862258688

  67. Stefanie G March 6, 2016 at 2:50 pm #

    I like to do my makeup and hair using tutorials on youtube so I know I’ll look like I know what I’m doing and make myself look good

  68. Norma March 6, 2016 at 3:29 pm #

    I look at what I have survived and i know I can do it.

  69. LAMusing March 6, 2016 at 3:32 pm #

    I put on a smile and stand up straight. Fake it till you make it!

  70. Tarissa March 6, 2016 at 4:54 pm #

    Exercising can usually help me to feel more confident!
    pixelberrypie at yahoo dot com

  71. Linda March 7, 2016 at 4:08 pm #

    I put on a nice bright lipstick and smile!

  72. Linda March 7, 2016 at 4:08 pm #

    Tweet https://twitter.com/Lindiac/status/706994947505803265

  73. Shawn Gallagher March 8, 2016 at 9:24 pm #

    https://twitter.com/Esham4life/status/707436643540664322

  74. Shawn Gallagher March 8, 2016 at 9:25 pm #

    I put on my best outfit and try to smile before I leave the house!

  75. Faith J. March 8, 2016 at 9:50 pm #

    I take a walk and try to figure out why I’m feeling that way and then eat a good meal and take a nap sleep it off

  76. Rebecca March 10, 2016 at 6:26 pm #

    I like to wear makeup everyday so that I feel confident if someone comes to the door unexpectedly. I try to always be ready for visitors.

  77. angie March 11, 2016 at 8:05 am #

    This is very hard for me. One thing that I do is to look over my portfolio and try to judge it as not my work. I hope that doesn’t sound cocky but it does help me to see that I have validity on hard days.

  78. angie March 11, 2016 at 8:06 am #

    I tweeted here: https://twitter.com/MsTofuFairy/status/708322777896505345

  79. Lisa Brown March 12, 2016 at 6:53 am #

    I will always do something with my hair and makeup to feel confident, even when I don’t.

  80. Lisa Brown March 12, 2016 at 6:53 am #

    tweet-https://twitter.com/LuLu_Brown24/status/708667189205667841

  81. Betty C March 12, 2016 at 7:46 am #

    I discovered that you can fake confidence and when that is successful you do start feeling good about yourself and more self confident. When I take the time to look my best, including Abreva for cold sores, it automatically boosts my self confidence.

  82. Betty C March 12, 2016 at 7:48 am #

    Tweet – https://twitter.com/willitara/status/708680874510815232

  83. Ellie Wright March 12, 2016 at 9:05 am #

    I try to look and dress my best and eat well to stay healthy. I feel the most confident when I am fit and healthy.

  84. Debbie B March 12, 2016 at 6:50 pm #

    I make an effort to dress nicely and fix my hair and makeup even when i don’t feel like it

  85. Debbie B March 12, 2016 at 6:51 pm #

    i posted a tweet here:

    https://twitter.com/purplepanda1966/status/708847894061690880

  86. Kris O. March 12, 2016 at 8:49 pm #

    When I am not feeling confident; I fix myself up and wear a favorite outfit.

  87. Wanda McHenry March 12, 2016 at 9:58 pm #

    When I don’t feel confident, I like to take on a new recipe either a dessert or meal knowing I can make it fabulous!

  88. Wanda McHenry March 12, 2016 at 9:59 pm #

    https://twitter.com/myfolly/status/708895047370936320

  89. Sarah L March 12, 2016 at 10:05 pm #

    I sing out loud and feel more confident.
    Thanks for the contest.

  90. Thomas Murphy March 12, 2016 at 10:44 pm #

    I dress nice to be more confident

  91. Thomas Murphy March 12, 2016 at 10:44 pm #

    tweeted
    https://twitter.com/thomasmurphy40/status/708906607216881664

  92. Stephanie Phelps March 13, 2016 at 6:05 am #

    When I am not feeling like being more confident I get up do a workout anyway and I get dressed and meet friends for a day out!

  93. Stephanie Phelps March 13, 2016 at 6:06 am #

    I tweeted
    https://twitter.com/my4boysand1/status/709002543091810306

  94. Bert Ruiz March 13, 2016 at 7:24 am #

    When I don’t feel confident I like to read the WORD to remind myself who I am in CHRIST

  95. Bert Ruiz March 13, 2016 at 7:27 am #

    tweeted https://twitter.com/iamdadtastic/status/709022930550718464

  96. WHITNEY March 13, 2016 at 2:19 pm #

    I always think about myself first to stay confident even when i don’t feel like it!

  97. WHITNEY March 13, 2016 at 2:20 pm #

    I sent out a tweet: https://twitter.com/electricstar/status/709126873884667904

  98. Tabathia B March 13, 2016 at 3:36 pm #

    I go for a walk to feel more confident

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

  99. Tabathia B March 13, 2016 at 3:37 pm #

    tweet https://twitter.com/ChelleB36/status/709144560979603456

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

  100. tina m March 13, 2016 at 6:47 pm #

    I put on my makeup and listen to the music!

  101. claudia davis March 13, 2016 at 11:18 pm #

    I go work out or take a walk to to be confident when I don’t feel like it so it gives me more serotonin!

  102. Claudia Davis March 13, 2016 at 11:20 pm #

    https://twitter.com/davisesq212/status/709262516115922945

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