Sooo…. The internet can be a really ugly place, can’t it?
I posted a video on Facebook the other day of some hairstyles. They were messy but I still thought they were cute and I got quite a few comments telling me how they were a “sloppy hot mess” and “WTF I wake up with better hair!”
A while back I got a comment on my YouTube channel that said:
“hi your ugly”
Just like that – bad grammar and all. Now I don’t know if that comment was really a person or what, but it made me laugh. First of all, it’s YOU’RE ugly. Second of all, even if you thought I was ugly, why do you feel the need to say it? I posted it on Facebook so that you could all have a good laugh too and everyone was so kind in offering support and encouragement.
And you guys, YOU’RE awesome. Thank you. I do want to talk a little bit about the comment though.
Putting yourself out there on social media can be hard. People have opinions and tucked safely away behind a computer screen it feels so easy to share those opinions and not have any consequences as to how they’re received. And that’s not right, people should use self control and be considerate of other people’s feelings.
But there is a flip side to that. We have become a generation of easily offended people. Different parenting styles, political views, lifestyles and we’re all offended when someone shares an opinion or how they feel.
See, the reason that comment didn’t offend me one single bit was because my worth isn’t found in other people’s comments about me. I am not ugly and I know that. I don’t need a commentator to validate my beauty or to demean me. I am okay with the way that I look and nothing anyone says — especially someone I don’t know from Adam — says will change that. And you know what, if someone truly thinks I am ugly, I am okay with that too. I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and not everyone will like me and the way I look. That’s not my goal in life. I am a daughter of the King and loved and chosen by Him first and foremost. And I’ve already got a husband who loves me so I’m not on the look out for other men or people in general to find me attractive.
It’s a sad world we live in that for one people can feel so free to share their negative strong opinions online. Because what if I was an insecure young girl? Those comments could have cut a lot deeper. You/we don’t know what’s going on behind the computer screen and negative comments could be more hurtful than we think.
Can we find a happy medium? Because while most of the negative comments were just rude, there was at least a couple that said something about not liking the styles but they said it in a nice, respectful way that I actually appreciated them. I could respond in a good way and actually have a little conversation about it. That is how it’s done!
Also, just a thought, if you’re scrolling through Facebook and there’s a video or post that you just think is stupid, I have an idea… just keep scrolling. You may think it’s ridiculous but that person might have worked hard on it and taking the time to read/watch & comment negatively is just not necessary. It’s a free platform, you have the freedom to not like what’s being put out there. I guess I just don’t understand the need to tell everyone that you don’t like it.
But I can’t control other people, I can only control myself and I want to encourage you all today as well. Let’s be okay. Let’s be secure. Let’s be confident in the way God made us. Let’s be okay with the imperfections that we can’t fix and work on the ones that we can. Let’s teach our sons and daughters to love each other and to love themselves. Let’s start a new generation of people who are confident and secure but equally loving and encouraging to others.
You are beautiful. You are enough. You are worth it.