Be You. Be Beautiful.
Have you ever wondered who was the authority on what was ‘pretty?’ Who said rail thin was beautiful? Or that if you didn’t have long, thick hair you were out of luck. And then who said that every single one of us had to fit into these predetermined requirements?
Says who? And why? It blows me, really, how women compare themselves to anyone and everyone and usually find themselves coming up short. Almost every time.
Why? Why are we coming up short? Well, in my opinion because comparing is a lose-lose situation. You either come out on top and you’re feeling pretty good about yourself (and in turn, pretty lowly of the other person), kinda high and mighty, or you come out less than worthy, kinda feeling sorry for yourself. Why is the tendency more often the latter? And even if we do come out on top it’s usually due to insecurity so think lowly of the other person to make ourselves feel better.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been there! I do it too often and I hate it every time I do it.
Jenna from Life of the Wife posted an Instagram pic a little bit ago and said something along the lines of (can’t find the pic, so this isn’t an exact quote) “Ever feel pretty with your hair and makeup & just want to document it?” YES! Why the heck not? She wasn’t saying she was prettier than anyone else, she just felt good about herself! Is that a bad thing?! And yet, for some reason having confidence is more looked down upon than saying something like “feeling totally crappy and ugly today. And oh ya, I’m fat.”
So I want to start a movement. A movement where women everywhere embrace their OWN true beauty. Where it’s okay to know you look good and embrace that. It doesn’t make you better or worse than the next girl, because you aren’t comparing! A movement where we train ourselves to be okay with the way we look. Heck, maybe even embrace it!
Because it’s so easy to tear down. It’s so easy to listen to the bad stuff. And sometimes, it’s easier to be negative.
But doing the easy thing isn’t always the right thing.
I move that not only we embrace our own beauty, but that we learn to build up other women around us. We encourage and motivate others to embrace their beauty as well. Pay a compliment – that you really mean – say some kind words, help a sista out, encourage someone. You know, the good stuff.
Let’s think of it this way. What if your beautiful little child worked all day to create a pretty painting for you. He brought you the painting and was so proud in showing you and you say “That’s really nice, it’s very lovely in parts, but it has too much black over here. And this part should be blue. And I don’t really think this part goes. And it’s fat.”
Okay, so the fat part doesn’t fit into my analogy, but you get it, don’t you? We are all masterpieces in different ways and we’re saying “nice try, it’s okay in parts, but really, it’s not good enough. It should be like that painting over there.” And meanwhile, that painting is saying “if only I could be like that painting over there.”
How about saying “Thank you Lord! I am beautifully made and I am going to embrace the beauty you gave me.”
Trust me, I know this is hard. It’s a weird exercise to feel beautiful and be okay with it. Maybe even say it out loud. There are parts about me that I really don’t like. It annoys me that I have them. But there are parts that I love and am thankful for. So, as my husband always says (and he’s a pretty confident dude) “If I don’t love me, who will?”
How can we expect to go out and conquer our worlds while feeling sorry for ourselves or not good enough?
So let’s do something about it! Here’s my challenge for you today:
Tell me something beautiful about yourself. And as a practice of embracing it confidently – leave it in the comments, it will be like saying it out loud.
We want to connect with you. I want to encourage you, we want to encourage each other. Use the hashtag #beyoubeYOUtiful on Twitter, Instagram, or Google+ and encourage others as you see it! Let’s start a movement!
Me and my girl Hillary are going to be talking & encouraging women to step out of their comfort zones and learn to embrace their own beautiful through some fashion & beauty. Can’t wait to chat with you guys and encourage each other!
Then be thankful for your gift, embrace it, and go out and conquer your day. 🙂