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My Style.

What is my style? I know this might not be a huge question for some of you, but defining my style is kind of a challenge.

See I have never been fashionable. I grew up a total tom-boy. In fact, I specifically remember hating my mom trying to do a French braid on my hair because I thought it would take forever. A French braid? Yep.

I rarely wore dresses, and hardly ever shoes. I climbed trees as high as I could go and dug holes to make underground hide outs. I didn’t bother with make up until well into high school and even then it was iffy. I mean, that would mean I would have to get up earlier. And that wasn’t gonna happen.

I have two brothers and lots of guy cousins. I was the only girl surrounded by boys, and with my competitive nature,  I had to keep up. I never did princesses or Barbies, I still have a hard time understanding why little girls like that stuff. I mean, give me a princess like Tiana who has her own dreams and works hard to be somebody! That’s my kind of girl!

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So then I went to college and got a little better. I have a hard body to dress because I am 6 feet tall all skirts look too short and all shirts are too short and it’s hard to dress modestly when clothes that fit are hard to find. But I managed to be a little cuter, have a little more style and even get into makeup more. It helps to have a best friend that’s adorable and is an amazing thrift shopper.  IMG_0468

Then I joined the workforce. I started to have fun with it. I was a supervisor of a sales team and I liked feeling business-y. I mean, it was what I wanted to be when I grew up.

Then I got pregnant.

I managed to stay ok-cute during my pregnancy. I was still working and had an excuse to get all dressed up.

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Then I had the baby.

Oh man. Did I lose sight of any form of cuteness. I forgot how to dress, how to shop. I often forgot how to do my hair or brush my teeth. I wasn’t cute, I didn’t have clothes that fit me the way I wanted (hello body change!) and I didn’t have money to revamp my wardrobe.

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Then the second baby came. My closet was still full of clothes I had from before my first baby. Plain t-shirts that were just comfy (not cute – to be clear). Jeans I had had from college. Flip-flops. It wasn’t pretty.

I don’t know about you, but money in marriage can be a challenge. See, my husband handles all of our finances. Every penny. Because he’s good at it. I don’t ask questions, we’re never in debt and we have awesome credit scores. (thanks babe!)

But this also limited my spending. He gives me a budget each month for groceries and things I need for myself and for the boys but not a ton extra. Not because he doesn’t want me to have it, but because he is doing his best to manage our money. And if I don’t mention a need, he doesn’t see it.

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Well, the other day I was complaining – err- talking, I was talking to him about it and how it was hard because I know we’re not broke (and we’ve been broke) and I still didn’t feel like I had freedom to spend. And that’s when he said it. The glorious sentence that might haunt him the rest of his life.

“Budget? What budget? I never said you had to have a budget for shopping.”

Oh honey. I’m sure that will bite you in the butt at some point, but for now, thank you. I’m loving it. I bought these funky cool pants in Amsterdam last weekend along with the shirt and a cute beenie. So with this new sentence by my side, I am ready to go out and find my style!

I can’t wait to share all my new purchases with you! 🙂

So what about you? Do you have a clothes shopping budget? Or do you just have at it?

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35 Responses to My Style

  1. Annette March 6, 2013 at 3:34 am #

    I see that money can be an issue (not only in a marriage) and when I was married my (Ex)husband also managed our finances (same reason) but I still had my own account and my own salary. I am divorced for many years now and my new partner and I (not living together which is a different situation) have completely separate “funds”. I had to learn a lot about dealing with money, keep the budget low, etc. Hard times but lessons learned. I would never ever go back to shared money management.
    Therefore I am responsible for all my shopping expenses besides my rent, my car and bread&milk…

    I love your printed trousers!! Great purchase and I saw you had a fantastic time Amsterdam!

    Annette
    Lady of Style

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 5:04 am #

      I actually manage all the money I make from this blog and pay bills with it. It’s in a separate account but my husband is still on that account too. He just doesn’t bother with it. For us it works, I am happy to have a man who handles it all and still gives me my freedom. Definitely works for us & I don’t mind it a bit! But that’s great you get to manage your own money! There is something freeing about being in charge of it all. Thanks for your comment!

  2. Pomereta March 6, 2013 at 5:00 am #

    My style? Still trying to find it, my mum and sister tried for very long to get me some, but wasn’t a preference for me then. When started to work clothes became a must (you need an image when you work), but the thing is when I don’t wear working clothes don’t know what to wear, tried to experiment for a while. Now I’m not working and my budget is tiiiiight, so yes I do understand. Found a kind of solution recently (inspiration came from internet): “shop in your own wardrobe” and “recycle your clothes”. But sometimes feels a need for refreshment/update, then is when all your ideas and pinterest are soooo helpful (colour tights, statement necklaces, neon colours, etc.)…still no the most fashionable person but I keep trying.
    Think a post in how to dress nicely or update your wardrove in a budget would be a great idea!

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 12:09 pm #

      That is awesome, thank you! I think I will do that. It’s hard sometimes to write about fashion because I am not the most fashionable. But at the same time I am here just like most of the women who read, so maybe I can help through my progress?! I want to do a post about wearing different pieces different ways and shopping your closet for sure. And boy do I understand money being tight, we’ve been there for sure!

  3. Roothie @ a Roothless Life March 6, 2013 at 8:39 am #

    Lol, i totally feel ya on the tom-boy thing. I grew up with two brothers too. Even though I wore skirts, I was always still in sneakers running around.
    I don’t have a clothing budget, but maybe I should be on one. Your husband sounds great. I want someone to manage my money, I probably wouldn’t be in debt. 

    you look great. those pants are super comfy. 

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 12:03 pm #

      Oh these pants are oh so comfy! I love them. And my hubs is pretty great! 🙂 He grew up pretty poor so that’s how he learned to be really good with his money and make it stretch. It’s coming in handy for sure! We have budgets for almost everything around here, but it’s worked so far! Glad to not have this one though!! 🙂

  4. Dee March 6, 2013 at 9:22 am #

    We have all been there!!  When I was pregnant with our first son my husband said,  “oh you don’t need maternity clothes, just wear my shirts.”  What?!  Boys are funny sometimes.   You look great by the way!

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 12:01 pm #

      haha that’s so funny! Men sometimes! I made it a point not to buy clothes that were too big instead of pregnancy clothes because I didn’t want any temptation to not get back into them! Thank you for your comment!

  5. alisha March 6, 2013 at 9:23 am #

    Hey Natalia..I love the casual look you sported in Switzerland pic. I have to say I totally relate to the television time with my daughter when it is cold out we are stuck inside…please share any creative ideas I could use them . I have seriously thought of having a no t.v week or 2 to get out of the constant viewing funk we get into..LOL 🙂 BTW I purchased the leopard print infinty scarf you suggested, I havent recieved it yet but, hopefully I can share a pic with you when I get it. Thanks for all your style and beauty tips. God Bless Alisha.H

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 12:10 pm #

      Thank you Alisha! I hope you do share a picture, I would love to see it! You can send it to me or share it on my FB page.

      I am thinking about doing a “screen detox” post next week actually! I’m not the most creative mom though, I must warn you! But I’ll try to come up with some fun ideas!

  6. Traci Michele March 6, 2013 at 9:27 am #

    love that puffer vest and your beautiful hair Natalia!

    Here are mine if you get a second to take a peak:
    http://ordinaryinspirations.blogspot.com/2013/03/what-i-wore-week-5.html

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

      Thank you so much! I’m going to take a look now!

  7. Elena March 6, 2013 at 9:49 am #

    These pants are super fun and unique and you are rocking this look!!!!!
    http://dcinstyle.com/

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 11:59 am #

      Thank you! Glad you like them! Thanks for your comment!

  8. Chiom March 6, 2013 at 11:51 am #

    i loved reading about your style! your hubby has NO idea what he’s gotten himself into haha! love those pants 🙂

    ~Chioma
    C’s Evolution of Style

    $1000 Visa Gift Card Giveaway 

    • Natalia March 6, 2013 at 11:59 am #

      haha that’s what I say!!

  9. Jessica March 6, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

    Yes, I am still trying to find my style too after years of kinda losing it to my kids.   I love your new pants, but more importantly, how did you enjoy Amsterdam?

    • Natalia March 7, 2013 at 6:03 am #

      Oh gosh, join the club!

      Amsterdam was amazing. Such a beautiful city, I don’t remember being as mesmerized the first time I was there. I should be headed back in a couple weeks, that should be fun!

  10. Rachel G March 6, 2013 at 4:39 pm #

    At 6 feet I bet you have a hard time finding the right fit! I can’t imagine that myself–I have trouble finding dress pants that don’t drag on the ground. You look great in those jeans and what your husband said about your clothing budget was very sweet. My clothes money comes out of our general “Miscellaneous fun” budget category–sometimes there’s a little more, sometimes there’s not much at all. We’re in saving mode at the moment so I think it will be a few months without new purchases for now…

    • Natalia March 7, 2013 at 6:02 am #

      I actually think he was smart to say that because he knows I won’t go crazy and I won’t. We are in saving mode too, seems like we always are! But it’s nice to have a little more freedom than when we were broke! And actually the older I’ve gotten the easier it’s been to find clothes! Don’t know why, but I’m not complaining!

  11. Leslie March 6, 2013 at 6:59 pm #

    I don’t have a specific budget, but I also don’t go crazy with shopping.  And I definitely have items in my closet (okay, stored under the bed) that are from my pre-baby days.  I just can’t let go of them.  My clothes tend to reflect how I feel about myself.  Feel looking good?  A cute dress, makeup and hair curled.  Feeling not-so-good?  Ill-fitting clothes, little or not makeup and a ponytail.  Unfortunately, the latter has been most common over the last three years.  I suppose it’s time to make a change.

    • Natalia March 7, 2013 at 5:45 am #

      I totally understand! Except I’ve noticed that even if I’m not feeling so great about myself, if I put on a little makeup, and do my hair I feel so much better about myself! It’s amazing how much something so small can help!

  12. christina March 7, 2013 at 3:24 pm #

    LOL! oh my goodness, what a wonderful feeling to feel free to SHOP! I super duper LOVE those pants, and this look is totally my style. still on the fence about cutting my hair, but this look on you makes me want to do it.

    • Natalia March 8, 2013 at 2:54 am #

      I think he knows I won’t go too crazy being the responsible girl that I am… well, he just knows I know my limits, we’ll say that! But it is nice to have a bit more freedom! How fun to cut your hair!! How short?

  13. julie March 7, 2013 at 6:39 pm #

    This is such a hard question for me! Sometimes I feel like my style is stuck in the 90s!   I’m a mom of teen boys and it seems they’re always needing new pants (ripped riding their long boards last weekend), new shoes (trashed stomping in the swamp — we live in Florida), new shirts (ruined by an ink pen left in a pocket)… you get the idea.  Money is tight.  My body type (curvy like my hair) doesn’t lend itself to shopping at places like Target.  Besides, I don’t want my style to be a carbon copy of every other mom on the block.  

    I’m open to any inspiration you can give.  I really like your writing style, and your hair styles… so I might just have to follow you for awhile and gain some inspiration.  

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your experiments so openly.  Us mom of boys have to stick together!

    • Natalia March 8, 2013 at 3:03 am #

      Oh I totally understand, just on a younger level. My boys are still young but I can’t keep them in clothes! The knees get ripped, the shoes ruined almost immediately, and if they aren’t ripped or ruined, they grow out of them so fast! I guess you’re kind of a glimpse into my future!

      Do you sew? A good idea for a fashion budget is to refashion some old clothes or thrift store clothes. Like I took my husband’s old shirt he didn’t wear & cut the sides out and made it into a dress. Or cut out the back of an old shirt and replace it with lace. Here are a few I’ve done:
      http://manouvellemode.com/2012/10/19/husbands-shirt-refashion/
      http://manouvellemode.com/2012/08/27/simple-t-shirt-refashion/
      http://manouvellemode.com/2012/06/21/diy-lace-t-shirt-refashion/

      I totally understand not wanting to look like every other mom on the block! I love Target, but try to buy my clothes at H&M or Zara which are totally cute but also inexpensive, often even better than Target! I also plan on doing some more psots about shopping your closet – kind of trying to rethink what you already have in there & reinvent old pieces. It really opens up for new opportunities!

      Hope this helps a little, thanks for following along!

  14. Lauren Anderson March 9, 2013 at 6:50 pm #

    I don’t have kids, recently married 26 year old with an average body type and I am 110% relating to this, but in a different way. I feel like my style is at a standstill because I’m wearing clothes from college (freshman year) that don’t fit, aren’t appropriate, are forever 21(more like 21, for 6 months, tops) and all I really feel comfy in is “business clothes” because 1. I had to buy clothes for work and 2.its what I wear daily. Easy. I’m just soooo glad to know that being stylish and then going thru “style finding” periods of life are normal. I am so awkward. Thanks for making me feel less awkward! PS I love the printed pants!

    • Natalia March 10, 2013 at 5:29 am #

      Oh yes, you’re totally normal!! I think everything in life is a process and we’re all just working through it on our own time tables. Some women probably couldn’t relate to this post because they’ve been stylish their whole lives & have been able to keep it up. My mom was never into style, and as you read, i was a total tom boy. So now I’m almost 30 & still figuring it out! But I do feel like I am getting closer! Glad you liked the post! Thanks for your comment!

  15. annelise @ aunie sauce March 22, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

    You look so good Natalia! I LOVE your style. And your hair. And you!

    • Natalia March 24, 2013 at 3:05 am #

      Thank you so much, you’re so sweet! Right back atcha!

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