It’s a lot of pressure, isn’t it, to be a parent. I feel it almost daily. “Should I have said that? How should I have dealt with that? Oh man, I totally screwed up there. I need to spend more time with them.” And the list could go on and on and on, can’t it? I pray daily for my babies that God will take care of all the mistakes me and the hubs make.
Because every kid has ‘parent issues’ right? Let’s just try to keep them to a minimum…
Personally, I think they have an amazing daddy to model what it’s like to be a good, strong, yet loving man in this crazy world. But doesn’t it seem like kids are getting worse and worse these days? I’m not talking about your kids, of course. They’re angels, I’m sure! But as far as our house goes (they’re also angels, if you must know) these are 6 things I want my boys to grow up knowing & being.
1.) Be confident
You might not feel it. You might think all the other boys have it together & you don’t. It may appear that others are better than you. Guess what? It doesn’t matter. You do you. And you be confident in yourself. No need to compare. No need to try to feel better than others either. Just be confident in who you are as a person.
2.) Be Responsible
For your clothes. For your gadgets. For your actions. You’re not babies anymore. Mom and Dad can’t always do it all. Take care of what you own. Because guess what baby? Momma ain’t buying you another. Learn to be responsible for what’s in your life.
3.) Man up
Take responsibility for your mistakes. You’re going to make them and that’s okay. Own up to them, apologize if need be, take appropriate actions to fix it, and do better next time. Also be ready to accept punishment for your actions. It won’t always come in the form of a spanking from mom or dad but you will always have authority in your life. Man up and take responsibility for your choices.
4.) Be Respectful
To your elders. To women. To your friends. It is not your job to decide who to be respectful to or who deserves it. Be respectful and it will come back to you. If it doesn’t, you really don’t need that person in your life. But remember #2 – you are responsible for your actions not theirs. You can only control yourself.
5.) Work Hard
This one is a lost on a lot of kids and teens now-a-days isn’t it? If you have a job or athletic practice or school, be on time, ready to work hard and give it all you got. You may never be the best and that’s okay! All we ask is that you work hard and give it your all. Oh and don’t quit. Never quit.
6.) Rise above
People are mean, son! Some people don’t care about your feelings and will say harsh things. Some people will try to bring you down even if you are everything on this list. That’s okay. Let them. Do not let their actions bring you down to their level. Because if they do, you end up being mean just like them and you have to take responsibility for that. If they don’t lay a hand on you, turn around and walk away.
If they do, sock ‘em in the face as hard as you can swing. And I bet they don’t do it again.
Man, I love my babies. And as a mom of boys, it’s hard to think now (when they’re 5 and 2) about letting them go. But I know I have to understand that I am raising men. Not momma’s boys. I want them to be able to leave me and cleave to a new life whether that be a running a family or running a business. Or both.
But while they’re home, while they’re my babies, it’s our job to take care of them. To provide for them. Which can be hard, specially if you’ve seen how much they eat. It also involves things like health care and provisions for the future.
For example, right now, I’m embarrassed to say, we don’t have life insurance. And after losing my cousin unexpectedly, at such a young age (he was 28), I realized how important it really is, specially for parents. It makes me nervous and the whole process is a little intimidating, actually, trying to figure out what you need, how much, for who etc. Thankfully I came across Genworth Insurance site and found a wealth of information. Like the coverage worksheet. Makes it so easy!
And if you’re a stay at home mom and think you don’t need life insurance, here’s an article I read recently on why women need life insurance and it’s so true! You really can’t under estimate the worth of a momma. I mean, if something happened to me, my husband would definitely have to hire out. Because I’m really that awesome. And I’m sure you are too.
I know this post would look entirely different if I had daughters, but tell me:
What is something that you hope and pray (and try to teach) your children grow up to be?
This post made possible by Genworth Financial through Brandfluential. All opinions are my own and always honest!