I have to vent a bit.
I have two boys, as you all know. I love them so dearly, with all my heart, more than I knew you could love someone. My oldest is 4 years old now. He is the biggest sweetheart. He always picks me flowers when we are at the park, he tells me I look so pretty when I actually get ready for the day, he cares when people are hurt, he is overall so extremely loving.
Now these are super great qualities to have. He will make an excellent husband someday for sure. But there is another side of this that we worry about. He isn’t very tough. He cries over things that he doesn’t need to cry about. You know how I know he doesn’t need to cry? Because he starts crying before anything even happens.
Now my husband is kinda macho. He is a tough guy and I think I might have seen him tear up, not cry, mind you, once in the 10 years I have known him. Even me, I am not macho, but I am not a super sensitve girl. I don’t know where my son gets it from.
We have been pretty tough on Tae from the get go. He slept in his crib in his own room straight from the hospital. He didn’t use a pacifier at all after 18 months. He never sleeps with us, ever. He has gotten spanked, *gasp* yes spanked before. We have always said that we are raising an eventual man. We understand that he has a sensitive side, and that is great. But we want to raise a man who will be able to take responsibility for things, run a household, be a leader of a company if he wanted to.
Don’t get me wrong, either. I love that he is sensitive. I think it is a good quality in a man to have. I don’t want to change who he is, even if we could. I just want to do my best as his mother to mold him into man who can have both. Who can be sensitive and be okay with it and also be tough at the same time.
I want him to be able to stand up to the mean kids at the playgrounds. And he has met a few. I want him to be able to handle himself instead of come crying to mommy. I want him to feel confident in himself enough to stick up for his little girl cousins, friends, or even another little boy getting bullied. I don’t want him to be afraid of those people. I want him to be able to handle business.
I don’t know what to do. I am out of ideas. I don’t know what to say to him to help him be tougher. I don’t know how to encourage him. I don’t know how to get him to understand that it is okay to be sensitive, it is okay to hurt, just do your best to work through it! I am at a loss. I just pray everytime something comes up because I am out of ideas.
Any mom’s out there with sensitive kids? I would love to hear some advice or some things that worked for you.